My friend Lois is mourning her brother and like everyone some days are harder than others. She sent me this link to a blog post that she likes. A friend sent it to her, Lois sent it to me, I’m sharing it here.

5 lies you were told about grief

I will tell you the one platitude I hated was “you wouldn’t have wanted Dave to still be suffering.” Well, maybe I did. Intellectually perhaps not but emotionally, I would have given anything to have had him still here in any state.

Anyway, I think she’s on to something though most of us do indeed have to go to work and buy groceries.  I would add that it’s also ok to begin to live your life again.

By Mickaël Delcey (Silverkey) (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons